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Divorce and blending family

  The discussion this week has been very informative on the subject of divorce, marriage, and blended families. For as much as we hope for an ideal family situation we know that in reality life is hard and that sometimes in some situations divorce is the best solution to the situation even it isn’t most of the time. An that because of that it results in both split families as well as merger families latter potentially when the parents remarry. One of the biggest take aways fro m the discussions during the weak was some of the realities of divorce. For staters divorce is is something entirely based in self interest and putting oneself first which is not to that you should neglect yourself in marriage far from it but if both spouses seek to be selfless it is almost impossible for divorce to occur or even come close to that point that is not to say that there will be no tension but that it will just be the natural tension of two different opinions. Some of the other take aways if how most
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Parenting with love

  Parenting  As we are preparing for both marriage and later for a future family something to keep in mind is how vital a role that marriage plays in family because the family will only ever be as strong as the marriage is because how can you effectively parents when you are in conflict with each other and on is trying to parent very different from which may lead to nothing being taught or something you don’t want to teach being taught. Because just as important as what is being taught is how it is taught because if you try to teach virtue while being a scumbag you will be tuned out or no one will believe what you teach so a marriage in harmony is the best foundation to begin the process of teaching. From there before we even begin considering parenting we how can you do something effectively without even considering what it really is. A good example is teach if you don’t really understand what is teaching and what it means to teach how effectively you can do it. The same is true to pa
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Fathers and finance

  We have discussed briefly the roles and influence both fathers and finance plays in the family. Depending on how they are managed finances can have a significant impact on the daily lives of both individuals and especially families. One of the biggest downfalls of people isn’t having enough income but not managing finances effectively leading to spending far more than they need to for example by eating out on a regular basis you spend easily multiple times as much as you would on a similar food that you made yourself. Another example is the tendency we have in society to spend far more money on won’t that we have than we need to for example you don’t just get a tv you get a high end big screen because you figure might as well get the best but can you really afford it or another is your car. You get a brand new car with a couple of features but do you even need a brand new car let alone any additional features for sure. You could easily get a car 5 to 10 years old in great condition w
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Healthy communication

  This week we have been focused on the role that communication plays in the different relationships that we form and the different types of communication between the people we interact with in our day to day life. When we are communicating with each other there are three general forms that they take verbally: the words we speak. Tone the feeling that we inject into the words that we speak and non-verbal or body language how what we do with our body speaks to others. When discussing each of them how much is conveyed from each only fourteen percent was conveyed through verbal communication followed by thirty five from tone and fifty one from non-verbal communication. To me this speaks of both the complexity of communication but how often we misunderstand or miss vital information because we are so focused on the verbal aspects and often only halfway listening to the tonal part while completely ignoring everything else. Using that view most of the time we are missing two thirds or more o
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Stress relief

  Stress for all its negative reputation has a large influence on both individual and family life. What we do with stress and the different forms that it can take in our lives is up to each one of us but it is also important to differentiate stress from distress. First stress is just something that we naturally feel at different points in our life just as a by product of living stress is the pressures we face such as worrying about success or failure to as simple as simple a the weight of a physically demanding task we all have varied amounts of stress while distress is the internal anguish and panic that of is what leads to depression if either experienced for a extended period of time or high intensity. Stress used properly can motivate us to act and get things done. It also helps us to grow by allowing us to understand when we are beginning to push ourselves closer to the limit of our abilities so that we can improve till we have a new high limit. For things that stress the family w
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The nature of sexuality

  This week much of the focus has been on the role that sexual intimacy has in marriage but also the danger of it outside of the bounds of marriage. As male and females are different in how they think. Most men and women are very different in how they view and respond to sex. One of the best examples of the price of sexual intimacy outside of marriage is the effects of teenage sex. The most obvious and well now detrimental side effects of it and a large part of why we have things like health class and sex education in high school is teen pregnancy. There are numerous negative consequences of this event. First often times this leads to the young women dropping out of high school for a variety of reasons from the difficulty of trying to be a high school student and pregnant teen to the potential rumors and ostracized environment and atmosphere that tends to follow it since even today teen pregnancy is greatly looked down upon in society as a whole and most social circles as well. And sec
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Preparing for marriage

  As we have been discussing this week just as there is a process from dating to marriage but marriage itself has its own transition since despite what some people may believe especially early marriage is a set of transitions from two completely separate lives to a combined life that each share with each other. Even the process of getting married can and does greatly affect the future marriage. For example many people's weddings are far more expensive than they need to be and affect it in various ways. If they take a loan to have an expensive wedding you are intentionally sabotaging your marriage. Why start a relationship in debt that serves no purpose. Another is waiting and saving up but should put off developing your relationship for a needlessly expensive wedding. Just a few examples of how even how we start our marriage can greatly influence which direction it takes.  One of the other dangers is knowing if this is what we should do most when going into marriage. At one point o
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