Understanding the dating game

 It has been interesting to see how much premarital relationships have changed from what they used to be like a few decades how much the term dating has changed from how it used to be used and how it was meant to be originally in the premarital relationship process that progressed from dating first next to courtship then proceeding to engagement which accumulates in marriage if it runs the full course to its end goal not that marriage is the end only a new beginning. First is dating and it’s many and various roles in the mate selection process that eventually leads to courtship. As the dating is occurring there is a lot to learn from your other half and it’s why “hanging” especially before marriage should only be done so much. I. The process of hanging out with the opposite sex while you can learn somethings usually because of the relaxed atmosphere and focus on relaxing there is a limited opportunity to learn about and better understand you date or someone you are trying to date which fine only if that is how you meet them not how you continue that relationship. First is single dates by pairing off and focusing primarily on just each other. Even on just the first date there is a lot you can in fact if done right most of what you need to know to go on more dates can be learned then. For example interests you can learn most if not all their interests giving a variety of ideas for a good date that they will enjoy. From there different date can teach different things about a person physical activities such as hiking a mountain can show how someone reacts to either physically demanding situations or stressful circumstances while on the other hand being willing to either go on a service date or just service in general car at least hit at someone who like can reach out to help others in need. While having them in the presence of children can show they may act in a future family of their own if they have children of their own. So many things can be learned from proper dating that while not all future problems can be avoided, many of the future issues that may have not arisen till after marriage are briefly visible now allowing for a potentially great marriage with the person one does choose to marry in the end.

From there over time the relationship will continue to progress from one step till the next till eventually either not working out in the end or leading to the final step of marriage. There are also additional tools that we have discussed that can help with really all relationships but are especially useful in those we are considering dating and eventually courtship with with the possibility of engagement and marriage. The tool that stuck out the most is the R.A.M model or relationship attachment model. There are five sections that make up the model with a line to gauge how high each of them are in our relationship. The parts are know , trust, rely, commit, and touch each progressively more important and connected to each subsequent part. The first is know one should not involve anything important with someone they don’t know at all, so knowing them should always be the best, especially for such an important relationship that may lead to marriage. Second is trust. It is hard to trust someone you don’t know while on the other hand those you know well are both easier to trust while also less at risk of harming ourselves. Third is to rely till you know and trust someone. You should rely on them for at least anything important which leads to the fourth one to commit till you know someone is reliable. Committing to anything of importance is a high risk endeavor which lastly leads to touch. No matter what someone claims physically intimacy of any kind from a simple hug all the way up to making out or sex can easily raise the other without you actually knowing them. So until one the others to a modest level limited physical intimacy to simple things such as a hug is best since you don’t want to invest in something you don’t know.